12/02/2013 by AndreaUrbanFox
DEFINITION – STALKING is a term commonly used to refer to unwanted or obsessive attention by an individual or group toward another person. Stalking behaviours are related to harassment and intimidation and may include following the victim in person or monitoring them.
I came across an incredible site which offers good advice for those being stalked and/or harassed.
The following are a few extracts from their articles (with link to original articles)
Stalker`s tactics –
➪ The Code of Silence – Individuals in the community know what is being done to you and why but no one will tell you. Furthermore no one will admit anything when you confront them about the harassment. CLICK HERE FOR FULL ARTICLE
➪ Smear Campaigns – Stalkers aim to destroy your credibility and terrorize you into silence. Stalkers use ‘Degrading Themes’ to terrorize the target causing them constant stress and anxiety. A Degrading Theme is a form of psychological harassment that stigmatizes the victim and destroys their reputation. The objective is to make the target a social outcast by deliberately spreading lies and distortions to individuals in their personal and professional environment. CLICK HERE FOR FULL ARTICLE
➪ Harassment Skits – Harassment skits are designed to traumatize victims by making them think the entire world is against them. CLICK HERE FOR FULL ARTICLE
➪ Threats – Daily threats are used to instill fear in the target and push them over the edge. Targets are threatened on a daily basis, but the threats are indirect or veiled. Threatening a target directly is risky for Stalkers because the target could report this to the police. CLICK HERE FOR FULL ARTICLE
Stalking and Harassment – Legal Guidance from The Crown Prosecuting Service CLICK HERE
STALKING – Help the police to help you – Advice from Met Police CLICK HERE
CyberStalking is a huge problem, the following will help you if you`re being cyberstalked.
How to Tell if You’re Being Stalked on the Internet in 7 steps –
1- Send the online user who you think is stalking you a message such as “Do not contact me in any way in the future.” You do not need to explain why, just state that you do not want the person to contact you.
2- Don’t continue associating with people who you think are stalking you. Ignore them completely, and don’t respond to any of their messages, posts, etc
3- Delete all personal information about you from your profile, user page, etc. Make sure that it won’t give away your real name, phone number, address, etc.
4- Tell a friend, family member, or someone else that you trust what is going on. Show them what this person is saying or doing to you. Get their opinion on what is happening.
5- Save everything this user sends to you. Even the little things that you don’t think would matter could actually make a big difference. Screenshots/URLs etc.
6- Determine if you’re being harassed or not. Ex “A course of conduct directed at a specific person that causes substantial emotional distress in such person and serves no legitimate purpose” or “Words, gestures, and actions which tend to annoy, alarm and abuse (verbally) another person.”
7- Notify the local police department if you think you’re being harassed or abused by this other online person
Now that you know if you`re being cyberstalked, here is some advice:
Steps You Should Take If You Are a Victim of a Cyberstalker:
*** SCAN your computer using anti-virus software for Trojans, worms, and email viruses that the cyberstalker MAY have sent you without your knowledge. It’s not uncommon for a cyberstalker to send you a keylogger. A keylogger records key strokes, websites you visited, your passwords and usernames. Please make sure you scan your computer right away. If you can’t remove the virus right away don’t use that computer anymore; instead, use another computer that is clean and free from viruses. FightCyberstalking.org recommends AVG.
*** Save evidence: emails, chats, private messages, etc.
*** File a complaint with the cyberstalker’s Internet service provider.
*** Tell friends and family members you’re being cyberstalked and tell them NOT to post personal information about you online such as your exact whereabouts, links to your other social networking accounts, email address, etc.
*** Change your online screen name.
*** Don’t use the same old username(s) on message boards, chat rooms, and social networking sites.
*** Change your email address.
*** Avoid using free email accounts.
*** Change all online passwords and change security answers.
If, like me, you done all in your power to address the issue, tried ignoring in hope it goes away and/or followed all the advice above and the stalking/harassment continues, REPORT TO POLICE. Dont suffer in silence. REPORT TO POLICE. And if after you reported to police the stalking/harassment continues, keep a diary, gather evidence and REPORT TO POLICE. Eventually they will have to look into it and act. After all, police has the duty of care.